6/20/17

Let's Close the Door...Please? #RebelliousWriting


     I'm doing it, I'm finally sitting down to write this post! This month has been busy, especially this week, and next week promises to be even more busy. *collapses* I would take a nap or at least try, but right now the house is filled with the sounds of kids screaming and the awful sound of pool noodles hitting bare skin, which always makes me flinch. In other words, my little brother's friend is hanging out here today, and my room has nerf bullets all over the floor because I guess they came in here earlier to play, that or the baby has been leaving me them as presents... *sighs*
      I might not even blog next week, so if I disappear, sorry! I'll try...but...

       Oh, and this one is about as Blimey Cow calls it "the do" in YA, so if that's a subject you'd rather not get into, I would recommend checking out a guest post I did over at Mary Kate's about Self-publishing, instead. It was a lot of fun. And if you plan on reading on I'd still encourage you to check it out afterwards!

       But anyway, here it is, the long awaited post about my opinion on the showing or telling of the birds and the bees in YA.

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    I don't like it. Not. One. Little. Bit. There are some things I need to know, and others I don't need or even want to know.
       And I get it, sex happens, that's pretty apparent.

       But please, spare us the details. I should not turn the page in a book and suddenly be reading a full-blown sex scene. This is after all a novel not a gross lemon written by a fangirl...

       What ever happened to hinting? I read old books and when the characters have sex (I've read like only two older books where anything is actually hinted at all), it shows and tells nothing, it just hints. And I think books that do this come off as way classier than the books that are just straight out vulgar and trashy.

       I watched Wonder Woman last Friday, and my siblings won't be watching it anytime soon because it hinted at a lot, but I liked it. Diana and Steve do have sex, but it doesn't show anything, it just hints. They kiss inside Diana's hotel bedroom and then it cuts to the next scene which is the next day and the subject is not brought up again (probably just because they didn't want an R rating, but still). Why can't all books and movies do that?! It's way classier and actually kind of sweet sometimes, even though I don't agree with sex outside of marriage.

       Think of it this way, you have two friends. Friend one is very vulgar and gross, she/he is always telling you all of the  disgusting details that you don't want to know.
        Friend two is the opposite, he/she is respectful of your ears and doesn't want to cause you any discomfort.

        Which friend would you choose to hang out with more?

         Books are like those two friends. Some are very vulgar and profane and others aren't and they are quite lovely.

          Please think of that when you write your book. It's okay to close the door, in fact, please do. As my friend Catherine so wisely made into a meme:



            Also, don't be a stupid person, or as I call them, a fruitcake.
        Get it? Because very few people like fruitcakes and very few people enjoy the company of complete dimwits... perfect metaphor. Trust me, most people DON'T want to read your garbage pornographic sex scenes!!! *gasps from the audience* That's right. And those who do, let's just say they aren't the best group to attract. I actually feel sort of bad for some of those writers, if someone googles their name all sorts of weird disgusting stuff is probably going to pop up, it must be hard to get a job...

      So don't be stupid. Don't be a fruitcake. And if you must make your characters have relations that are beyond friendship or first base, please close the door.

26 comments:

  1. *applauds* Aaaaaaaa-men. Preach it, sister.

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    1. Aw, thanks! I love your post about love to today, so right back at you! :)

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  2. Boom! Drop the mic!
    Great post, Gray. It is better to hint than describe such things. I don't agree with "doing the do" outside of marriage, either, but I don't judge people who do. Everyone is going to have an opinion.

    I used the term fruitcake today! You used it before and I was like, "That's a clever term." I usually use the word Loony Toon or Whackadoodle. I felt convicted a while back not to call people names and to especially avoid the word idiot, but calling a person out for their actions is important.

    Off topic. Sorry. This post was awesome.
    Got to love siblings, right? They annoy the stuffing out of you, but you can't be without them. Life would be too boring.

    Tomorrow, I might be away more, too. I have some things I need to get done. Of course, I still have my regular post coming out tomorrow, so I'll still reply to comments, but I don't think I'll be having any extra posts this week. (Unless the Lord says otherwise.

    Sorry this was long.
    God bless.
    <3

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    1. Thanks!

      And that's awesome! I have the habit of calling people food names as insults some times...sugar, honey, fruitcake, etc. Wackadoodle sounds fun to say though! :P

      And yes, one has to love siblings! XD

      Have fun tomorrow!!!

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    2. Yeah, fun isn't exactly what happened. I was going to clean my closet when I decided to paint it, too. Best/worst decision. At least my room is now nearly back in order, lol.
      <3

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    3. Haha, well, at least your closet's probably clean!

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    4. It is now! And my room is pretty much back in order. :D :D
      :D
      <3

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  3. Point number one that I'd like to raise. I actually like fruitcake. XD But it's Aussie fruitcake so it's different than American so I'M JUST GOING TO GO WITH THAT. XD

    BUT ANYWAYS. XP Apart from that I /completely/ agree with this post and wow. It would be so much better if all books did this. Honestly.

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    1. Lol. I'm guessing then that your fruitcake is different than ours. The fruitcake here is sugary bread with old (and sometimes rotting) fruit mixed into it. The fruit tastes nasty because it has to many chemicals and preservatives.. it's pretty gross. The Christmas fruitcake is the worse because it's so old you can taste it and not just in the fruit. I've only eaten one fruitcake I liked, and that was because it was homemade and from yesterday, sooo...yeah. LOL!!

      It would be so much better!

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    2. Eww. That sounds so gross. *cringes* Ours is most definitely different than that. COME TO AUSTRALIA AND I WILL COOK YOU A FRUITCAKE THAT IS ACTUALLY DECENT. (shh ignore the fact that I don't actually know how to cook fruitcake, but I'll get someone to cook you one anyway XD)

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    3. Well, I hope to travel the world one day, so who knows? Maybe I'll get the chance to try Australian fruitcake one day! XD

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  4. Oh yes...I feel your pain with your brothers, Gray. Been there, done that, not willing to go back anytime soon.

    But seriously, good post about this touchy topic. I can deal with hints for characters that are married, but not much else.

    Catherine
    catherinesrebellingmuse.blogspot.com

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    1. Lol, they can be loud and everywhere, but I wouldn't trade it.

      Thanks, and I'm the same way.

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  5. True that Gray!

    I love this post and I believe it really should be limited to married people but of course in some cases of storytelling its needed to make a point. But it doesn't need to be graphic, I love the idea of the hinting thing.

    One book I love a lot that still has some bits of explanation but not much at all are the Dahveed books. They are written as novels of David's life from the Bible. I usually cringe at the thought of rewritten bible history but Terri L. Fivash, the author, is a firm Christian and a historian who studied Hebrew. So it's quite accurate and amazingly well done. ( I read all five books but not the sixth which isn't released) You should check them out, she is truthful for what the bible has but it is very well done and puts into perspective the culture of the time which we often miss when we read the bible.

    Well anyway, sorry for the rambling!

    Anna - www.worldthroughherheart.blogspot.com

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    1. Yes. I agree it should be limited to marriage only, too. But a lot of authors aren't Christian, and they see nothing wrong with sleeping with people outside of marriage, and I'm fine with that. Whatever, I can't convince them to see from my point of view, but I just wish if they must they would hint it.

      Novels of David's life?? *Cringes* Yeesh, Sunday school discussions about him are awkward, I can't imagine reading whole novels on that, although some parts of his life were cool. But I might check them out. Thanks for the recommendation!

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  6. Hit the nail right on the head, couldn't have heard it better

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  7. Erogenous material should definitely be avoided. I believe I only have about two stories that even have kissing in it, though the one might be a bit too steamy (still just kissing, but from feedback it's more sensual than I had wanted it to be). Also, if you ever want to watch a French film, be very careful. They can get very graphic.

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    1. I've written a few stories with kissing in them, but I don't like going farther than that.
      Ooh. Thanks for the warning, I'll keep that in mind if I ever watch a French film in the future!

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  8. "Don't be a fruit cake." I like that!

    This post is so true! I don't like being uncomfortable in the safety of my home.

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  9. It's super disgusting how people will give out the details. TMI much??? An example I can name off the top of my head for a book that does imply sex but doesn't list out the details is The Fault in Our Stars, if I remember correctly-- it's implied, but it doesn't go so much into detail it feels grotesque.

    xoxo Abigail Lennah | ups & downs

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    1. Also was just thinking: it'd be cool to have a post to talk about how sometimes girls are objectified in YA when they really shouldn't be? Just a thought.

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    2. That's a great idea! Thanks, I'll have to post about that soon!!

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    1. Thank you! It's good to know I'm not the only one. :)

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