9/17/17

Perfectly Imperfect: loving your imperfect writing


     As a writer there is one major thing I need to stop doing: comparing myself.

    If you're a writer, I'm sure you've struggled with this too. But today I am not going to tell you how to stop comparing, if you want to read an awesome blog post about comparison, check out Melissa's amazing post that she did a while back, The Comparison Trap

      Writers compared themselves way to much. We also tear ourselves down a lot.

I'm a bad writer.
I'll never write like them.
The haters are right.
I'm just not good enough.

          STOP. Listen, life isn't easy. No exceptions. Which means even the things you love in life with a fervent passion won't be easy.

        If you think writing is going to be perfectly easy always, well, you can forget it. Nothing, nothing, nothing, is ever effortless.

        Please get that fantasy out of your head now, we'll all be better off.

       Also, there will ALWAYS be someone better than you.

       Stop tearing yourself down over that. It doesn't matter if your writer friend can reach 50k with no sweat, while you can barely finish a novella. It doesn't matter if your writer friends can write “better” than you. There are always different levels of experience. Example of this: There are two writer friends, one is better at writing plot twists and dialogue, and the other is better at writing characters and settings.

       Does this make either of them bad writers? No. Does this make either of them better than the other? No. It just means that they have different things to work on, and different areas to grow in.


       Stop tearing yourself down, and stop letting others tear you down.

       Last week I got a couple of hate comments on my post on RW, they both targeted my writing. I had two choices that morning when I read those comments,

1. Believe them and feel bad.

2. Use them to fuel my writing and grow stronger because of them.

        I am glad to say that I chose number two. There will always be haters, guys. People who want to tear you down, because they're jealous, or they don't like your ideas. Sometimes people are just plain mean, for no reason at all. You can't let that get to you.

       There will always be haters, but there will also always be people who love you and support you.

        As for the voices of doubt in your head, don't listen. Just don't.


       My writing will never be perfect.
       Your writing will never be perfect.

       But you know what they will be?

        Perfectly imperfect, and that is a beautiful thing.

Happy Writing,

46 comments:

  1. Boy do I keep needing this reminder. I'm delaying starting my novella because of my stupid perfectionism (as if grad school wasn't a good enough reason).

    Catherine
    catherinesrebellingmuse.blogspot.com

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    1. We all need this reminder from time to time! Your novella sounds amazing, I hope it picks up soon.

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  2. Thank you. I always get insecurities about my writing. And I always think to myself, well, no one's going to read this. It's not good enough. But you're right that some things are never perfect, and that we can and will do our very best anyway. :)

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    1. You're welcome, I do too.

      Yes. That's all we really can do; our best.

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  3. This was such a good post!! I have never had hater comments on my write posts(maybe that's because I don't have much of those), but I sure would feel terrible if there were.
    I love that: Perfectly imperfect. I'll remember that whenever someone criticizes my writing in the wrong way(by trying to tear me down). If it's well-meant, then I don't mind, but the other way around...
    Again, I really loved this post!

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    1. Thanks! I hope you never do, it's not fun. :)

      Nothing can be perfect, and as creatives, we need to keep that in mind.

      I hope this post helped!

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  4. Thank you for this, Gray! It's so encouraging <3

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  5. You are just so amazing! I'm sorry those jerks commented what they did. I only got little tidbits about that since I was on break at the time, but I was able to infer some of what they said. Its so wrong that people would do that. But don't listen to them. Rebellious Writing is bigger than their blogs and websites because you've said what everyone else is afraid to say.

    You're writing, from snippets I've seen, is amazing. And you're blog posts are so encouraging.

    And you're right. We will all have our insecurities and we'll never be perfect. But that's what makes our writing unique to us.

    Wonderful job, Gray! God bless you!
    <3 <3 <3

    ~Ivie
    iviewrites.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much, Ivie! Luckily, I'm use to stuff like that, it just hasn't happened on the web before. ^_^

      That is so sweet, I love your writing and blog as well!

      Thank you, God bless you as well!!

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  6. Such a good post! I'm sorry about the trashy comments; that had to be discouraging. Your blog posts and writing (from what I've seen) are awesome. Keep up the good work. You're an encouragement to us all. :)

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    1. Thanks, Olivia. Trashy comments happen sometimes, it's sad but true! :)

      Thank you! :D

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  7. Thanks for this, Gray! I recently had a "Iwillnevergetthisperfect" editing moment. But I forget that my trilogy is already so much better than it used to be, and that's what I need to measure it to (and not everyone else's writing).

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    1. You're welcome! Ugh. I hate that feeling, especially during editing. :/

      That is an important thing to remember! You're making progress, you might not see it right away, but you are. <3

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  8. Awesome post, Gray!:) I love reading it, and I too have felt like my writing is Imperfect at times...then I remind myself I am still learning...and that no ones writing can be perfect.
    -Quinley

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    1. Thanks! That is a very important thing to remind yourself about, good job!!

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  9. Great post! I can completely relate, I find myself comparing myself to others all the time too... But whenever I start thinking that my writing is bad and I'm just a terrible writer, I remind myself that I'm still just a kid, I've got so, so many years of writing ahead of me, so much to learn, and so many writing experiences to live through - my writing will only keep getting better!

    And yes, there will always be haters, people who don't like your opinions, but instead of just accepting it, they say horrible things to you. It's sad but that's just the way it is. You can't let it get to you. :)

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    1. Thank you, Indigo. That is so true! We are ALL still learning, and there's nothing wrong with that. <3

      Yep, that is so true. :)

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  10. YES!!! I love this post! Thank you for your encouragement! Also, I'm glad you decided to take the positive route! Never let the haters destroy your passion.

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    1. Why, thank you, Sarah! XD

      Thank you for yours. That is so true! I won't, and I hope you won't ever either!!

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  11. Just jumping in with my support Gray. You go girl. Don't let the haters get at you. You've got courage and I admire that. Praying for your. You're making a difference in this world. :)

    #highfive

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    1. Thank you! <33 That means a lot to me.

      *high fives back*

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  12. *starts singing Shake it off* this is so very important. Thanks for being bold enough to tell the world about your struggles, Gray. :)

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    1. That song is so good, but so annoying at the same time, I have mixed feelings on it! :P

      Thanks!

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  13. I think camparing is a problem for literally everyone no matter what you do. I am always comparing myself to other people if it is about what they have if there talents. This was a really well written and important post. :)

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    1. Yes, that is so true. Thank you, and thanks for reading. <3

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  14. Aww, thank you for linking to my post! <3 You said this wonderfully, and you're completely right. There is no shame in having imperfect writing, only in not being willing to grow!

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    1. You're welcome! Your post was lovely. ^_^

      Thank you!!!

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  15. Yep. Maybe thirty years down the road you can sweat it a little, but at this point, the only sense in looking at the big wigs is to help propel you forward. Chuck Norris wasn't Chuck Norris in high school, so to speak. And in writing, we basically don't even have prodigies. There's Paolini, but I haven't actually read his stuff to know if Eragon was any good.

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    1. True. Very true. Especially the Chuck Norris part, but I would still be intimidated by him in highschool if he was that tough early on... XD

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  16. Great post, Gray!!!! Really inspiring!! <3

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  17. I really like this post, no sugar coating feelings and I love how you just come out and say it. As for the comparison......... my face while I read it O_O Are you spying? Telepath maybe?? LOL Still I am a girl who always compares, it is my fault and I am trying to work on it. Do you struggle with it often?

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    1. Thanks. I'm really horrible at sugar coating, so I couldn't have even if I tried to! XD

      Yes. Yes, I am and I do. Look behind you! XD

      Yep. I compare a lot too, I've been working on it though, and I'm slowly getting better. :)

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  18. Aw, thanks for this post!!! I needed that. :-) *hugs*

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  19. To echo everyone else--great post! :P It's such an important thing not to compare yourself to other people because the doubt and discouragement can get right to you way faster than you realise.
    Keep up the good work, Gray. <3

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  20. This is such a good post; I am always doubting and harshly criticizing myself, so this post meant a lot. I'm so glad you wrote it.
    I can't believe someone would leave a hate comment towards anyone; especially you or any of my other blogger-friends.
    You are a very gifted writer and i am glad you have chosen not to listen to what haters say. *wet eyes* *grabs you in a bear-hug*
    Sincerely,
    Kendra Lynne

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    1. Thank you! I'm glad you read it. :)

      There are some people who are hurt and so they try to hurt others to take their own hurt away, it's sad, but true. :/

      Thank you, Kendra! *hugs back*

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  21. WHAT THE HECK, I LOVE THIS! One of the things I still struggle with is feeling incompetent because of my writing productivity. This is so encouraging <3

    - andrea at a surge of thunder

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    1. DUDE, THANK YOU! It makes me really happy to hear that. ^_^

      I struggle with that too sometimes, it certainly isn't enjoyable. :/

      I'm glad you thought this was encouraging!

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  22. Very true -- and it's a beautiful thing. One of my best friends is also a writer. And we write completely different (even in genre). She can make that word count look amazing with her amazing thick fantasy novels. Me? I write short stories. But I won't have it any other way - we write from ourselves. And that's amazing

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