Why I Hate Strong Female Characters

          Why do I dislike strong female characters?

            Well, I don’t necessarily hate them.
            But I hate the fact that the writers don’t understand that there are different kinds of strengths.

            There are more powers and strengths than just the whole “girl kicks butt whilst wearing high heels” stereotype.  

            The whole “we need stronger female leads” movement has created dozens upon dozens of the exact same girl in every YA book.
            Same angsty dull personality, and of course, she’s so not like the other girls. She hates everything feminine, because makeup and personal hygiene will give you cancer and make you look like all the other weak females, duh.
            The difference in every book? She looks slightly different and her name has been changed.


            I hate strong female characters, because instead of building women up it tears us down. Instead of giving credit to our normal personality traits and strengths, it gives credit to the brawny tomboys, and only them instead.
            NEWSFLASH: Most girls AREN’T as strong as guys, ESPECIALLY IN HIGH HEELS. Sorry, YA authors!
            Kuddos to the ones who are, but most of us aren’t.

            It’s okay to have girl characters cry, it’s okay to have girl characters like girly things, it’s okay to have girl characters who want to be pretty. It’s okay to have girl characters need a guy to help her sometimes.

             Nia Wingfeather is one of the strongest female characters I've ever read. She is a single mom, who has lost almost everything but her father and her three children.
              No, she does not lead a revolution or fight a bunch of armed men with nothing but her heels, instead she loves her children and teaches them grace, dignity, and reassures them of who they are.
               She makes countless sacrifices to save and protect the ones she loves, and she doesn't need her fists.
             THIS^. Is an example of a real woman in YA.
            Not all girls are body builders.
            Not all girls are sarcastic and mean 24/7.
            Not all girls are angst filled creatures, who hate the happy airhead wearing frills.
            What is wrong about the happy airhead wearing frills, anyway? I’d like to read about her instead for once.


            There are so many different kinds of girls with a huge range of different strengths and weaknesses, physically and emotionally.
            Why just write about the same one over and over? 

What do you think about females in YA?
Happy Writing,



Being Real

            I’m totally stressed and tired out right now for no apparent reason, send help.

    Being real is hard.
            I look at other bloggers, writers, and people in general, and they all look so cool, like they have it all together. It makes me wonder what vibe I give off when people are reading my words…

            I mean, if people read my posts and imagine me to be a sloppy mess of a teenager in desperate need of the prick of a magical spindle, or a bite from a poisoned apple (a hundred year nap, that is effortless? Yes, please), or for all math and science books to be burnt ASAP, they’d be right! 

            But the fact that anyone might think something other than that ^ or “Sheesh, that girl loves books,” totally blows my mind.

            I mean, I’m just me. Gray Marie, a fourteen-year-old girl who has a passion for creative things. A girl who believes that Jesus Christ died on the cross to save her and everyone else from sin and eternal damnation. A girl who would almost rather face a zombie apocalypse than that test or quiz for school!


            And I don’t know how I could ever be anything else.

            I still struggle though, and I’m sure you do too, because sometimes in the rush and bustle of life, we lose ourselves.  

            The tragedies. The sadness. The depression. The fear. It’s just so easy to let it all slip away, like sand falling between the cracks in your fingers. Going, going, gone.

            It’s maddening. One second you’re so sure of who you are and why you’re alive, and the next you’re unsure.

            Then comes the crippling anxiety. Are you still you? Or have you changed completely? Do you still have a voice that needs to be heard? DO PEOPLE ACTUALLY CARE AT ALL ABOUT WHAT YOU CARE ABOUT?

            The isolation sets in, and you feel like you are all alone—the only person in the universe who is like this.

            You’re not. I promise. And I want you to know that, I want everyone to know that.

            A girl once asked me why I talk about myself the way I do,  how I laugh at myself and the mistakes I’ve made.

            It’s because I’ve learned that it’s better to laugh at yourself, and because I want people to feel less alone.

            I know how it feels to be lonely. I know how it feels to hurt. I know how it feels to be an outsider.

            Sometimes I still find myself trying to keep secrets. I want to hide the ugly side of me, to erase my imperfections. I don’t want people to see the flaws that I have.

            I have realized something important though, I have wasted so much time trying to hide my mistakes, that I have neglected learning how to fix them.


            Being real is hard, it means being brave. It means admitting the fact that I’m not perfect.

            No one is perfect.

            I’m a mess. You’re a mess. We’re all one big disaster.

            But you know what? That’s okay. Every good story has a hero, but if everyone in the story was perfect, who would the hero save?

Whew! I hope you enjoyed my rambling, and my very Christian themed post, which I didn’t intend to be Christian themed... *shrugs* this is what happens sometimes when you’re a Christian writer, it sneaks into your writing! XD
What do you think about being real?
Happy Writing,


Getting Rid of Writer's Block

            We’ve all faced it at some point or another…
             That blank page or screen. The horrible feeling of nothing, no ideas, no plans, no brilliant schemes, nothing. It’s all blank.

       Yep, I’m talking about the awful monster called Writer’s Block that all writers dread. It creeps up on you and sucks all inspiration and motivation out of you like a vampire… or a mosquito. 

      One moment things are great! You’re in front of your laptop happily typing away, the story enthralling you in its complex plots, and the next moment you’re staring at that blinking cursor, your mind totally empty.

         I’m sure by now you’ve probably experienced this, maybe you’re even struggling with it still!
Well, I’m here to help, here are eight ways to get over Writer’s Block:

1.      Take a break! Yep. That is my first go-to when I suddenly am lacking inspiration or motivation (besides forcing myself to write, call this plan B). Sometimes you simply need a break from writing. Go for a walk, read a book, bake cookies, and let your mind rest.

2.      Go on Pinterest. Ah, what did I do before I got Pinterest this year? That app is literally a life-saver, with prompts, aesthetics, and quotes that are sure to get your creative juices flowing again!
3.      Read a book. I know I sort of said this in #1, but it is SO IMPORTANT. Books are literally food for the brain (not fish, that’s not the brain food, your parents lied! :P). Go stock up on settings, plotlines, and character traits.

4.      Do other activities/pursue other passions. Did you know that there is a whole world out there? With… OTHER TALENTS BESIDES WRITING?!?!?!?! *gasps* I know! It’s shocking. But seriously, go learn a new skill or craft! As a multi-passionate person, I like other things besides writing, such as singing, music, art, service projects, photography, and nature. So go learn to sew or learn how to bake a chocolate coffee cake!

5.      Write a post about how to get over Writer’s Block. That is, if your block is what to write as a blog post. *Cough* Totally not why I’m writing this…

6.      Speaking of blog posts, go read blog posts like this one on how to get over Writer’s Block, or watch YouTube videos about it! And even other blog posts/videos on the writing craft can help a lot.

7.      Write a short story. Short stories are so fun, not to mention relatively easy to write, because they usually have one theme and mood that helps lead up to the plot twist or ending. Not to mention it can generate ideas for your WIP.

8.      Consider giving up. DUDE, I KNOW. That is one of the worst things to tell a writer to do, but sometimes it’s a measure that must be taken. If your story simply won’t come, maybe it’s time to move on. Read a great article on that here: Is it Okay to Give Up?

That's it! I hope it helps.
      I said I would post on Thursday, and now it’s pretty apparent that I lied. Oops. I was in the process of getting my new laptop, since my old one was acting up.
Are you or have you struggled with Writer's Block?
What has helped you get out of the slump?

Happy Writing,


I Fail at Art + Taking Requests

   Wait a minute... I thought this blog's name was Writing is Life, not Art is Life!

    Don't worry, this blog hasn't been hacked (yet, I'm getting an increase of page views from Russia, yeesh)!

     I'm just participating in an art contest for MiddleEarthMusician, there's still three days left to enter so check it out HERE.

      Anyways, she said we could draw anime style if we wanted to, which I'm not very good at, but since I'm busy it was the quickest option. I considered trying to draw in charcoal, but since I'm still learning I felt that would be risky, so I stuck with pencil and pencil crayons.

      Prepare to cringe.... (seriously, it's not that good). Xd

Ian, MiddleEarthMusician's MC
    Sorry that this isn't real post, although I am writing one and if all goes well it will be up tomorrow!

     Also, I am now taking blog requests, so if you want to see a certain post or topic on this blog comment below or contact me with the contact form over there! >

Happy Writing,


So NaNo... What's Up With That?

    Your blogger feed, wordpress feed, and your inbox is about to explode….

      With NaNoWriMo posts.
Sorry for not having an actual picture for this post, my laptop is acting up, I'll hopefully update this soon.

        In case you don't know, NaNoWriMo is an online event that happens in November, which is national writing month. The challenge is to basically write 50k in one month, all through November. It's a great way to meet fellow writers, creatives, and bloggers.
      Because of its popularity, the blogging community is about to go CRAZY in a matter of days, already I see NaNo posts or NaNo prepping month posts, which are amazing, but there are going to be SO MANY SO SOON!
       I've only been blogging for nine months, and I've already lived through the gazillions of Camp NaNo 2017 and Recovering from NaNo posts.
      Now to face the onslaught of hype over the “real deal” NaNo challenge: November NaNo.
       In this month of NaNoWriMo “prepping", I want to post something helpful about it, but something different enough to actually not sound like the hundreds of NaNo posts already floating around the interwebs. Unfortunately, I don't think that is possible, but I'm going to try.
        Firstly, why do people even do NaNo? And more importantly: Why should you?
        As I said before, NaNoWriMo is a great way to meet fellow writers and bloggers. It's also a great way to track your process on your book, and an amazing motivation to write.
       If you're like me, you are a slower writer. You don't like to rush your writing that much, and although that can be a good thing, in our case it can also be a bad thing if you stop being motivated to write. Not only is NaNo motivational, but it's a great way to learn how to write faster.

       Maybe you're a writer who loves challenges and deadlines, or the idea of having a deadline interests you, maybe you want to know how it feels. If one of these is the case, NaNo is perfect for you!
       Don't let the idea of not reaching the goal (50k in a month) discourage you. The point of NaNoWriMo isn't to write a good book or to hit all of your goals every time, the point is to get the words in your head out and to show you that, yes, you can do an incredible amount of work if you put your mind to it.
       Even if you don't reach 50k this November, you are way closer to 50k than you were before. Even if you only wrote 2,000 words, you are closer, you wrote something. It's okay to not “win” NaNo, because at least you are farther along than you were when you started.

        Now that we've covered why NaNo can be great and why you might want to do it, let's cover why you shouldn't do NaNoWriMo.

          You shouldn't do NaNo just because it's a trend. As I said before, your inbox is probably going to blow up this month and next month, and most likely all of your blogger friends and favorite bloggers are going to be participating in NaNo and extremely pumped about it. It can be easy to just do NaNo because it's popular, and you want to relate to all of the fellow creatives, but if that's the only reason you're doing NaNoWriMo, I would personally suggest that you re-think.

      Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with doing NaNo because one of your friends is excited about it and you want to try it out, but you won't get very far if you only do NaNo because it's a trend.

       Don't do NaNo if it's going to completely stress you out. NaNoWriMo is suppose to be a challenge, but it's also suppose to be a fun challenge that will help you write and achieve your word count goal. So if you're stressed with life, school, work, etc. and you don't think you'll be able to do well in NaNo, don't do it. There's nothing wrong with that. This program is super popular, it will still be running next year most likely, so just let yourself breathe.

       I might not even do NaNo to be honest, because I need to focus on my school and I'm super tired right now. And there's nothing wrong with that, I am doing what I think is best for myself as a writer, student, and teenager.

        Do what is best for your mental health. Don't do NaNo if it's going to be unnecessarily stressful for you, and definitely don't do it if you're in school like me and you think it's going to affect your grades.

        NaNoWriMo is a great program, I would definitely encourage writers to do it, but I would also encourage some to make sure that it's something they want to do and if it would help them as a writer.

What do you think about NaNo?

Happy Writing,