4/16/19

Is the Pro Life Movement Hypocrisy at Its Finest?


Yes, I am pro-life, but that doesn't mean I am perfectly happy with our movement, and that doesn't mean I am blind to the hypocrisy in it.





Let's take a second to look at what some pro-choice people have been posting about us:






There's sadly a bit of truth in this.

“Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.” -James 1:27

How are we, as Christians, or just as good people doing that?

I'm here to ask you, then what?

You get home from The March For Life, then what? Do you just go back to normal? Maybe post a  few pictures stating the obvious: abortion is wrong, y'all! Then by the next week, you've pretty much put that behind you and have continued living your comfy lifestyle.

You went and saw Unplanned, got really fired up, ordered a pro-life bumper sticker and T-shirt like any other authentic conservative, wrote a lengthy Facebook post on the horrors of abortion, maybe even a blog post, but then what?


Abortion is horrible? Yes, it most certainly is.

But you want to know what else is horrible?

The countless kids that face abuse in the homes of people who took them in for all the wrong reasons.

Being passed from home to home, family to family like you're a piece of trash.

Aging out of the system with no family and no place to call home.

That's just as horrible. 

And even worse? I see so many good people turn a blind eye to this.

I always wonder what would have happened to my siblings if we hadn't adopted them. I hesitate to write that because I don't want to come across like I think we saved them, I can't stand it when we go places and people look at us like we were their saviors, because we weren't. My parents are just people who did the right thing.

But what would have happened?  

I look at them together, how much they love each other, and it pains me to think that they most likely wouldn't have been able to stay together if we hadn't obeyed God.

I look at my own biological siblings and I can't imagine the possibility of losing my parents and being separated from them, I can't imagine the fear that I would never see them again.

I've been asked before if I plan to adopt one day, and my response is always along the lines of:

How could I not adopt? 

How could I raise my own biological children in (hopefully) a safe, loving Christian home while not reaching out to any of the countless children who need safety and love just as much as my own children?

How could I sit idly by and claim to be pro-life when I know what those kids are going through? When I've heard the stories first hand from my siblings, when I've seen the tears and the pain?

I won't be able to sit by and do nothing, and I pray when the time comes you won't either.


The majority of my blog readers are teens around my age, and even though it doesn't seem like it right now, we have so much impact as the next generation. 

Close your eyes and imagine a world where every Christian or even just simply morally good and sound families adopted at least one child.

Imagine the change we could bring.

Imagine how we could fix the system.

I've been around and heard so many stories of so many amazing people who are making a difference.

Foster and adoptive families are the strongest and most loving people I know, and there needs to be more of them.

I am pro-life because I believe life matters, but not just when the life is inside the womb, but outside it as well.


It's time that we as a pro-life moment, as Christians, as people who think lives matter take a long hard look at ourselves in the mirror and ask ourselves; what are we really doing?

46 comments:

  1. AMEN! I’m not gonna lie: I got really nervous when I saw the title of this post. XD But I agree with all your points! We need to show respect, love, and care for EVERYONE, not just inside the womb. We’re “pro-life” not just “pro-baby”. Amazing post, Gray! <3

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    1. Haha, I don't blame you, it is a bit jarring. I had it as a statement before but decided to soften it.

      I'll second that. <3 Thank you for reading, Nicole!

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  2. wow. this post is amazing, Gray. <3 <3 and it's so true. We're an adoptive family, and it breaks my heart to know that so many children don't have a loving home.

    just like Nicole said, we're "pro-life", not just "pro-baby". <3 <3

    such a powerful, moving post, Gray. <3

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    1. <3 That's so wonderful that y'all are an adoptive family, I don't think I knew that. <3 <3 It is absolutely heartbreaking.

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  3. Oh, this is so true! Wonderful post, Gray!

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  4. At first, when I read the title of your post, I was skeptical. I was thinking "How could there be an hypocrisy?" But once again, you've taught me to think deeper than I was before and you've convinced me to consider adoption in the future.

    I am totally in support of adoption and how there are kids that need to be adopted. I only wish America didn't make it hard to adopt American kids who need homes here. Instead people turn to foreign adoption when so many kids here need help. (Not to say kids outside of America don't need help, too, don't get me wrong they do.) There's just a lot messed up with everything in society right now, but you are bringing change, positive change, to this world. So thank you. <3

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    1. I wish it wasn't so hard as well, it's certainly a flawed system and we had to fight a bit in order to get my siblings, but luckily the people are good, the system is just complicated. :/ It's 100% worth it though.

      Thank you for reading. <33

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  5. not just inside the womb, but out of it...LOVE THAT! I think it's cool how you said, people look at your family like you are your siblings savior or something...but it's not like that. I think it would be crazy amazing if we all took one step and adopted one child. You're right...it would be such a huge change and difference. :)

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    1. It would be an amazing difference, and I believe we can do it.

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  6. I agree! I think adopting is amazing!

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  7. Thank you so much for this, Gray!
    I love the idea of adoption, though unfortunately in NZ I don't think they allow it. :( Adoption is definitely important!

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  8. Amen!!! This is so so so so true!!! Even if we of the younger set aren't capable of adopting right at this moment, we still have a voice, we still have ourselves. We can use these to impact the lives of the children. This is such a convicting post, Gray!! I was always disgusted at the hypocrisy in the systems that were supposed to be "good". Ahh, before I go into a long rant, I shall close myself down by saying; VERY good job, Gray!! This was fantastic!!! <3

    ~ Lily Cat (Boots) | lilycatscountrygirlconfessions.blogspot.com

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  9. Sooooooo true. I'm appalled at the state our foster care system is in ... they basically treat those kids like animals, forcing them to move from home to home, with all of their possessions in a black trash bag. And few people want to actually /do/ something about it. As for myself, I want to do more than merely adopt, I want to see reformation in the system itself.
    Also, my FAVORITE ministry ever is dedicated to saving the mother as well as the baby both spiritually and financially. I think you'd totally love them ... they are called "Save the Storks" https://savethestorks.com/

    To me it's appalling how so many people will turn a blind eye to foster kids, homeless people, and elderly. Yes, many of these people bring harm on themselves, but God never gave us an exception when it comes to helping and loving and serving others.

    GREAT POST!!!!

    (And I may have been a bit hesitant when I read the title, too, though I love titles that make you hesitant ;D

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    1. SAME HERE. It's absolutely terrible.
      I haven't heard of that ministry, but that sounds so great! :D

      Thank you! And I totally get why you hesitated. ;P

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  10. Great post. Though honestly, I don't think naysayers have much of a case. As far as I've seen, the pro-life movement actually does seem to be strongly pro-adoption and pro-foster parenting, and overall, actually pretty all-encompassing. I think critics are setting up a bit of a straw-man.
    I've never really encountered a pro-life activist who ceased caring about humanity after it was born. The pro-life viewpoint stems naturally from love for humanity, I think.

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    1. There are a good amount of people who put action with their words in the pro life movement for sure. <3

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  11. AMEN a thousand times over Gray! AMEN! My heart longs to foster and adopt kids. Honestly I don't even know if I feel called to have my own because I long to take care of the orphans and fatherless.
    This is so true and something I've wanted to write about for awhile but haven't taken the time. Beautiful post and many hugs to your family for having a heart that every family needs to have. Not everyone is called to adopt but we are all ncalled to love the unloved. <3 <3 <3

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    1. Ahhh, that's so awesome, Kara! <333 It's always wonderful coming across people with the heart for adoption + fostering. <3 <3

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  12. Yeah, I agree. And I think a large reason that people are pro-life but don’t necessarily think about fostering/adopting is because it’s easier to say something than do something about it. My family fostered for a while, and it is hard. But that doesn’t mean that we give up on those children. We need to fight for both the unborn, but in some ways even more important, those who are in need currently. And I understand that fostering/adopting is not something that everyone is called to do, but we can still support those who do. Love isn’t “specialized” to one single problem; it should cover a “multitude of sins.” We need to be careful not to lose sight of other problems since we’re so focused on one. Great post. ����

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    1. That's sad but true. :/ Action speaks louder than words, we do need to fight. <3

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  13. GRAY CAN I JUST SCREAM FOR A SECOND?!?!?
    Long story short, my heart breaks so much about this abortion that's going around, millions of babies every year, their innocent blood crying out to God from the ground and after lunch I asked "God what do you want ME to do? Am I doing enough? You've given me a life and a personality I believe can make a difference, what do you want me to do?!"
    I've been intereseted in the foster care system since I was a little girl and I've continued to get to know how it works, my debut and the sequel is about foster care, and I plan (with God's will) to absolutly foster when I have a home to do so in. Thank you Gray. You were SUCH a direct answer to a prayer. Thank you for this post!

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    1. AHHH THAT'S SO WONDERFUL, LIBBY MAY. <33 Bless you and your heart for the Lord and for his children!! <3 <3

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  14. *applause* THIS IS SUCH A GOOD POST, GRAY. :D Thank you for writing it.

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  15. At first, like Ivie said, the title stunned me for a second. I had never thought about it before. But, then I read on, and it breaks my heart to say this, but it can be very true.

    I've always loved little kids, and you will never know how happy it made me, knowing your family adopted them. And seeing how happy they are with your family is bittersweet to me because it reminds me that there are so many out there that don't have that same joy of being with a family that loves them. It's a sad truth that many in the foster care system are only taken in for the money, not for the kids themselves, and that really hurts me. And not only that, but the horrors of the foster system are heart wrenching. I agree with everything you've said and I wish the families who could afford to take on another child would act on their pro-life passion instead of just holding signs in the streets. But I’ve come to realize that we are all meant for different things and God uses us each in different ways. Some are meant to protest injustices while others are meant to act on them, and in this case, acting on it would be to adopt the babies that would have been murdered from abortion. I’ve always felt like I want to lead kids and be a role model for them, and fostering is a dream of mine. If I can, I’d like to have kids of my own and foster as well (one of the happiest times for me is getting to be around little ones), but if it’s meant to be, I’ll foster in good time.

    Anyway, thank you so much for this post! It awakened my dream I had forgotten of, and I hope it does for others as well! And thanks again for making a difference and adopting those kids, it really means a lot to me. You’ll never know. <3

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    1. I get why it stunned you for a second.

      Children are such a blessing, and it is so sad that there are so many in need. It's true that we are all called to different things, and I'm glad that you're thinking of fostering in the future. <3

      Thanks for reading!

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  16. Sorry, this is massively off-topic, but what happened to your WIP tag? I was going to (finally) do it, but I can't find the posts for reference.

    If you took them down (I hope you didn't, they were cool, but still), could you direct me to someone who participated so I can use theirs for reference?

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    1. Ooh, yeah, a bunch of my posts messed up and I had to delete them sadly. :(
      Julian started the tag, so I'm sure you'll easily find info on her blog: http://juliandaventrymemories.blogspot.com/

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  17. Yes, very true! We need to be loving and reaching out the fatherless! But I do think that many are already doing that. Actually, Abby Johnson (who wrote Unplanned) has adopted multiple children as well as being the one of the head of the pro-life movement. I can agree that some of us perhaps need to do that more (adopt, foster, etc.) but we really need to make sure that we are being lead by the Lord to do so. We have some friends who just adopted kids who they really were not prepared for and there were tragic consequences.

    Great points! <333

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    1. I agree with you completely about the need to make sure you are being led by the Lord to adopt and such. Sometimes we take on things that we don't really have the strength to pull off, and that's what makes God's leading so special. With HIS strength we can do the things he calls us to do. Even things that seem to be beyond our reach. I'm so sorry about your friend's accident—that really hurts me. <3

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    2. You make great points on your comment as well! Thanks for reading. <33

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  18. I've actually never seen this part of the pro-life movement before.
    In my area/group, most of the people I know have adopted or plan to. My cities group runs a ministry that helps mothers if they decide to keep the baby. They buy or get donations of formula, baby clothes and diapers and use them to help support the mothers. They also take strollers and car seats and other more expensive things. That way the mothers don't have to spend that extra money.
    And they get older more experienced moms to come in and teach them how to take care of the baby and talk to them. I wish I could remember what the program was called...

    I love how you used this as a call to action.If I ever want a family, I'm 100% going to adopt. Hopefully more young adult people will too.

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    1. That's so great! I wish you did as well, because that's so amazing. <33

      Yes, hopefully.

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  19. Thank you so, so much for saying this, that needs so badly to be said. I hate this hypocrisy as well. Christians and conservatives are really failing in this area. Adoption is important and valid and, I think, something most every Christian family should be willing to do.

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  20. This is something I don't think people consider (I know I haven't). Like, life is equally important whether it's been born yet or not, but YES, I've wondered just how different the world could be if everybody put a little more effort into the lives around them that are suffering. On this particular topic, I mean, if they can't adopt, there's still SOMETHING they could do.

    Thank you for talking about this. So important. <3

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    1. There's for sure always something. <3

      Thank you so much for reading.

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  21. Actually I read it yesterday but I had some thoughts about it and today I wanted to read it again because it is very well written. infissi pescara

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