What I am Learning About Love

I have a really bad habit, one I am still working to break:

I often think the worst of people.

Even when I don't mean to, I do.

Someone doesn't talk to me? Wow, they must really dislike me, my insecure brain thinks.

I realized one day after thinking this while washing my hands in a bathroom that I was actually judging the girl I was thinking it about.

No, I protested to myself. I just feel like no one would even bother to talk to me.

No, I realized, while that is partly true, I am judging this person by thinking that they're judging me.

Have I ever considered that this girl is:

  • new?
  • just moved here from another state?
  • could be shy and insecure just like me? 

Truth is, I was so focused on myself and how I felt, that I forgot to take into consideration how this girl might have felt. 

1 Corinthians 13:5 says that love thinks no evil. 

Is thinking that someone is judging me thinking no evil about them? 

Truthfully, no. 

Love sees the best in people. Love beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

After this realization, I was ashamed, and I prayed that God would give me grace and love for this sister of mine. 

I walked past her the moment I stepped out of the bathroom, and despite my insecurities, I forced myself to smile and say "hi, how are you?"

And you know what?  We had a good short conversation, and I really like her. She's just quiet, I've been there. 

It's something I need to work on:

Seeing the best in my brothers and sisters. Believing in them fully. 

Because that's what love is. 

1 Corinthians 13:1-13: 

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.

And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.

But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.

And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.

What have you been learning, friend?


  1. YES YES YES! I tend to think the worst and it's gotten me in so much trouble. <3 <3 <3

  2. I so understand. Great post!


  3. OOOOHHHH MY. WHAT A GREAT LESSON TO LEARN! I'm so glad you went and said hi to that girl, because so many wouldn't. And you know what? I think the church is mostly falling because people are too caught up in self-doubt to offer some love to strangers.
    Oh, and these days if someone doesn't like me I've become the sad person that thinks. "That idiot doesn't like me. Oh, well, Who cares." then I forget about it ... which is actually kinda bad sometimes because then that thought prevents me from being as loving as I ought to be .... so yeah, always gotta be working on those thoughts and loving better ;)


    1. <3 <3 <3
      It's a hard trap to get out of and an easy one to fall into.
      I'm working on it as well <3

  4. This was a beautiful post, Gray. Thanks for the lovely message ♥

  5. I went through the exact same thing a few years ago! This is really great, Gray. <333 That bible verse/passage is my absolute favorite (though, with my Catholic bible the words are a little different. Everywhere it says charity says love.). <333 Thank you for the beautiful thoughts!!

    1. <3 <3 I use to read the nkj version of the bible and it said love as well, now I read kjv because it's more accurate in my opinion. But love and charity are the same thing and are so so important. <3 <3 <3 Thank you for reading, friend!!

  6. This really opened my eyes, Gray. Loved it!


  7. I feel so encouraged and built up by this post - and inspired to be more like Jesus, because I probably do this waaaaaaaaay more than I might initially think I do. Thank for this, Gray. <3

    1. I'm so glad this post encouraged you, Lila! Thanks for reading. <3 <3

  8. Oh my goodness. THIS IS SO CONVICTING AND I LOVE IT!!

    I'm not super insecure, but I often tell myself people don't like me because of something they do that doesn't appeal to me. I never thought of it this way - thank you for opening my eyes, Gray!!!

    It's such a fantastic lesson, and one I hope I shall never forget.

    ~ Lily Cat (Boots) | lilycatscountrygirlconfessions.blogspot.com


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